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June 01
What the heck, it could be a crabby old man as
well.
Below it
states that this poem should be in all nursing homes.  Wrong.It should be in all homes on the
refrigerator door for all to see.  
This poem should be in every
nursing home! Very Special Poem When an old lady died in
the geriatric ward of a small hospital near Dundee, Scotland , it was
believed that she had nothing left of any value. Later, when the nurses were
going through her meager possessions, they found this poem. It’s quality and
content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to
every nurse in the hospital. One nurse took her copy to Ireland . The old
lady's sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas edition
of the News Magazine of the North Ireland Association for Mental Health.
A slide presentation has also been made based on her simple, but eloquent,
poem. And this little old Scottish lady, with nothing left to give to the
world, is now the author of this 'anonymous' poem winging across the
Internet: Crabby Old Woman What do you see,
nurses................What do you see? What are you thinking......When
you're looking at me? A crabby old woman..........................Not very
wise, Uncertain of habit,.....................With faraway
eyes? Who dribbles her food ............... And makes no
reply. When you say in a loud voice.......'I do wish you'd try!' Who
seems not to notice .........The things that you do, And forever is
losing ....................A stocking or shoe? Who, resisting or not,
............. Lets you do as you will, With bathing and
feeding, ............. The long day to fill? Is that what
you're thinking?........ Is that what you see? Then open your
eyes, nurse,....You're not looking at me. I'll tell you who I am ..
.....................As I sit here so still, As I do at your bidding,
.................. As I eat at your will. I'm a small child of
ten.............With a father and mother, Brothers
and sisters......................Who love one another. A young girl of
sixteen ...................With wings on her feet Dreaming that soon now
................... .. A lover she'll meet. A bride soon at twenty,
................... My heart gives a leap, Remembering the
vows ............... That I promised to keep. At
twenty-five now,.................... I have young of my own, Who need me to
guide ............... And a secure happy home. A woman of
thirty,................... My young now grown fast, Bound to
each other..................... With ties that should last. At forty,
my young sons..............Have grown and are gone, But my man's
beside me.....................To see I don't mourn At fifty
once more,..................Babies play ‘round my knee, Again we
know children,.................. My loved one and me. Dark days
are upon me,......................My husband is dead, I look at
the future,............................I shudder with dread. For my
young are all rearing .................Young of their own, And I think of
the years.......... And the love that I've known. I'm now an
old woman......................... And natu re is cruel; Tis jest to make
old age ............................. Look like a fool. The body, it
crumbles,.................... Grace and vigour depart, There is now a
stone.................... Where I once had a heart. But inside this old
carcass............... A young girl still dwells, And now
and again,.................... My battered heart swells. I remember the
joys,........................ I remember the pain, And I'm loving and
living.............................. Life over again. I think of the
years..................... All too few, gone too fast, And accept the stark
fact......................That nothing can last. So open your eyes,
people,.......................... ..Open and see, Not a crabby old
woman;.........Look closer......see,....ME!! --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Remember this poem when you next meet
an older person who you might brush aside without looking at the young soul
within.... we will all, one day, be there, too! PLEASE SHARE THIS
POEM. IT WILL OPEN HEARTS
May 29 I am so sorry, but this was not written by me as the author's name is below. I just wanted to share as I too thought was Beautifully written to share, and to keep in mind the words written. We are never really prepared, but reading these words has a lot to help along the way. Sorry I gave the wrong impression that I had a lose, Syd is still with me and I hope for a long time to come. But I have had loses of family and best friend's, but a child or spouse is the hardest to go through and this seemed to me share not only for me but you my friends too.
When Will I Stop
Hurting?
"I lost a
loved one nearly a year ago.
When will I
stop hurting?"
The question
was simple
but
difficult to answer.
She was
challenging me.
I wanted to
help her,
but I knew
that only she
could answer
that question.
Whenever
someone writes
to tell me
about a death,
I always
talk about the
difficult months ahead.
I refer to
it as a "Year of Firsts."
The first
holiday, birthday, anniversary,
summer
picnic or other personal events
without that
loved one.
Then there
are those little things
you never
really paid attention to before,
but now
find a gaping
hole right
in the
middle of your day.
Like the
time they woke up each morning,
how they had
their coffee,
the sound
the door made around dinner time
when they
arrived home
and the way
they said "hello."
But there
was something about this message
today that
made me stop and really
think about
what I needed to say.
Oddly, I
decided that the pain she was feeling
was a good
thing, but I wasn't sure she wanted to know that.
Here is
exactly what I wrote to her:
When will
you stop hurting?
That is a
measure of the love you shared and
how
does one measure love?
By
remembering them long after they are gone.
"Memories" are the shadows of a
life well lived
that remain
long after the light of their being has gone out.
May you
never forget.
"Pain" is
the echo of remembering
those
special moments when all the world
belonged to
the both of you.
The day will
come when the pain of
remembering
turns into understanding
the
privilege of ever having them in your life at all.
Remembering
will be a joy.
Although the
pain is great at times
you are
reminded still,
how very
much you loved and were loved.
May the rest
of your life be a reflection
of that love
and when your time comes, may your passing cast long shadows
for all who
loved you, too.
Bob Perks
Just had to share as I needed to read this, as written so beautifully with Love.
May 19 Great
news, the cat scan they did recently on Syd, found that no cancer was
spread from his prostrate cancer as his numbers went up as he hadn't
had a hormone shot in a Yr. as he was undergoing chemo and radiation on
his esophagus, which ended in Nov. Now resumed his shots and be every 6
months. Just before Easter had 2 units of blood. So far he is doing
great and keeping busy. Thanks for your on going prayers. Today having
my eyes examined and get new frames, there's two I like, not sure which
one I like, hummm! Is to warm up today, been cold!April 18
I, Deanie has invited you to Karaokeparty.com
Karaokeparty is
a free online karaoke game that gives you a score based on your performance. All
you need is a microphone, built in or connected to your computer.
Just go
to http://www.karaokeparty.com/ and
join the party!
Regards, The KaraokeParty.com team
Come Join in the party and have fun either ALONE or WITH FRIEND'S. I did alone. no
one had to hear how well or bad I did, lol. They even score you. April 16
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George
Carlin on age.
(Absolutely Brilliant)
IF YOU DON'T READ THIS TO THE VERY
END, YOU HAVE LOST A DAY IN YOUR LIFE. AND WHEN YOU HAVE FINISHED, DO AS I AM
DOING AND SEND IT ON.
George Carlin's Views on
Aging
Do you
realize that the only time in our lives when we like to get old is when we're
kids? If you're less than 10 years old, you're so excited about aging that you
think in fractions.
'How old are you?' 'I'm four and a half!'
You're never thirty-six and a half. You're four and a half, going on five!
That's the key
You get into your teens, now they can't hold you back.
You jump to the next number, or even a few ahead.
'How old are you?'
'I'm gonna be 16!' You could be 13, but hey, you're gonna be 16! And then
the greatest day of your life .. You become 21. Even the words sound like
a ceremony . YOU BECOME 21. YESSSS!!!
But then you turn
30. Oooohh, what happened there? Makes you sound like bad milk! He TURNED;
we had to throw him out. There's no fun now, you're Just a sour-dumpling. What's
wrong? What's changed?
You BECOME 21, you TURN 30, then
you're PUSHING 40. Whoa! Put on the brakes, it's all slipping away.
Before you know it, you REACH 50 and your dreams are gone.
But
wait!!! You MAKE it to 60. You didn't think you would!
So you
BECOME 21, TURN 30, PUSH 40, REACH 50 and MAKE it
to 60.
You've built up so much speed that you HIT 70! After
that it's a day-b y-day thing; you HIT Wednesday!
You get into
your 80's and every day is a complete cycle; you HIT lunch; you TURN 4:30 ;
you REACH bedtime. And it doesn't end there. Into the 90s, you start going
backwards; 'I Was JUST 92.'
Then a strange thing happens. If you
make it over 100, you become a little kid again. 'I'm 100 and a half!' May
you all make it to a healthy 100 and a half!!
HOW TO STAY YOUNG 1. Throw out nonessential numbers.
This includes age,
weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay 'them.'
2. Keep only
cheerful friends. The
grouches pull you d own.
3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts,
gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. 'An idle mind is the devil's
workshop.' And the devil's
name is Alzheimer's.
4. Enjoy the simple things.
5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you
gasp for breath.
6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only
person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are
alive.
7. Surround
yourself with what you love , whether it's family, pets, keepsakes,
music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your
refuge.
8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is
unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9.
Don't take guilt
trips. Take a trip to
the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the
guilt is.
10. Tell
the people you love that you love them , at every opportunity.
AND ALWAYS
REMEMBER : Life is
not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath
away.
And if you
don't send this to at least 8 people - who cares? But do share this with
someone. We all need to live life to its fullest each day!!
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Singer Uses Stage to Bring
Attention to Servicemembers' Sacrifices
By Kristen Noel PLEASE --- at the bottom check out the Wounded Warrior Diaries Special to American Forces Press Service
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WASHINGTON, April 14,
2009 - A former Marine sergeant turned country-music artist is using his
newfound fame to urge Americans to do more to support the men and women
returning from the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan.
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former Marine sergeant turned country-music artist, is using his newfound fame
to urge Americans to do more to support the men and women returning from the
wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. Courtesy photo (Click photo for
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Having toured
with major acts, including Toby Keith and Alabama frontman Randy Owen, and
landing three of his own songs on the national country music charts, Stephen
Cochran says everything he has planned for the next 10 years involves rising to
the highest level of music he can, while working to improve the quality of life
for severely wounded veterans and those suffering from post-traumatic stress
disorder.
"I want to bring attention to that great 1 percent ... it
takes to stand up and defend a whole country," he said. "One percent of our
population does that, so why can't the other 99 percent of it take care of
them?"
Cochran's dedication to the livelihood of combat veterans stems
from his own personal story of severe injury while serving in Afghanistan.
"Everything that I can do, I believe, I have to go through before I can
know what my mission is – like being injured," said the singer, who was told
he'd never walk again in 2004. "I had to be injured to know that our men and
women aren't being taken care of properly."
Called to Serve
As the son of a songwriter who grew up in America's "music city" of
Nashville, Tenn., Cochran had a country-music career in his sights all his life.
He had a bedroom full of instruments as a child – given to him as presents
instead of toys – and he made his first radio appearance with his father at age
3, singing the Alabama hit "Dixieland Delight."
"I don't think that
there's ever been an aspect of my life that hasn't been surrounded by music," he
said, "or that I haven't ever known that's what I always wanted to do."
However, shortly into his junior year at Western Kentucky University,
everything changed for Cochran. He had just been named captain of Western
Kentucky's lacrosse team and was gearing up for the season when the Sept. 11,
2001, terrorist attacks happened. That night, while watching the television
coverage in his fraternity house, he made the unexpected decision to join the
military.
"Everything was normal, and then it was like a snow globe," he
recalled. "In one day, ... I didn't feel safe anywhere."
Cochran
enlisted in the Marine Corps a week and a half later, walking away from his
college education, a promissory record deal, and his then-fiancée, who broke
their engagement when he announced his decision.
Enlisting wasn't a
choice he had to make, Cochran said. "It was just something that I was called to
do and was made to do," he explained. "It was ... just a strong voice inside me
that [said] I had to do this."
Patriotism always has been driven home
hard in his family, Cochran added. His father, both grandfathers, and an uncle
served in the military.
"They joined when they needed to, when our
country needed them," he said.
Beating the Odds
Cochran,
19 at the time, reported to boot camp on Feb. 2, 2002, and trained for nine and
a half months with the Marine Corps before he was deployed to Kuwait with the
2nd Light Armored Reconnaissance Battalion – part of the 1st Marine
Expeditionary Force – to prepare for Operation Iraqi Freedom.
Once the
unit crossed the threshold into Iraq, it fought to Tikrit and back, completing
111 missions during a year-long deployment. Enemy contact was frequent, Cochran
said, but the unit brought every man home.
"That was something we prided
ourselves on," he said. "We brought our whole family home."
Confident
after Iraq, the unit immediately volunteered to join the 22nd Marine
Expeditionary Unit for a special operations push in Afghanistan. The unit
deployed just four months after returning from Iraq. The decision to redeploy so
soon was "something we would all regret later on," Cochran said.
The
unit arrived to find a much more hostile environment in Afghanistan, and
firefights with the enemy were a daily occurrence. It was no longer a matter of
if the unit would get ambushed, Cochran explained, it was when.
"We
started losing guys," he said.
The anticipated ambush happened July 14,
2004, eight months into his deployment. Cochran, serving as a reconnaissance
scout, was on a routine security mission 20 miles inside Kandahar when his
unit's light armored vehicle struck an antitank mine. The explosion threw
Cochran off the back of the vehicle 125 feet, breaking five vertebrae in his
lower back.
The medics lost his pulse twice during resuscitation,
declaring him dead both times.
Cochran has no memory of the incident.
When shown photos from the scene, he said, he recognizes himself, but it doesn't
feel like he was actually in the picture.
"That's just a real weird
feeling that you really don't know how to deal with," he said.
Cochran
woke up a month later in the National Naval Medical Center in Bethesda, Md., and
was told that he was paralyzed from the waist down and would most likely never
walk again.
To make matters worse, the record label he had a promissory
deal with dropped him, not wanting to invest in a paraplegic. The woman he had
been engaged to cut all ties with him, and the Marine Corps retired him.
"It was a bad week; it was a bad week," Cochran said. "Everything that
I'd worked for in my past, present, [and] future was gone in one week."
However, nine months into his recovery at Bethesda, another option
arose.
Doctors at Vanderbilt Medical Center in his hometown of Nashville
proposed trying a surgery called a kyphoplasty to mend the broken vertebrae in
Cochran's spine. Kyphoplasties usually are reserved for older patients suffering
from degenerative discs. However it's possible to use the procedure to restore
feeling in the lower body for spinal-injury victims.
Cochran traveled to
Vanderbilt for the surgery. Four days after an orthopedic surgeon applied almost
4 pounds of cement to fix the crushed vertebrae in his back, Cochran had the
first feeling in his legs.
It was a tingling feeling, like feet falling
asleep, Cochran recalled. "It was the best feeling in the world, because it was
the first thing that I had felt in nine months," he said.
Six months of
intense physical therapy had him walking with a walker, and a year and a half
later, he was in a recording studio working on his first album with only a brace
to support his back.
Adapt and Overcome
Today, Cochran's
dream of becoming a professional country-music artist has come full circle. He
signed a record deal with Aria Records and released his self-titled debut album
in 2007.
"Two and a half years after they told me I'd never walk, I
signed a record deal," he said.
Between tour dates, Cochran has been
back in the studio, recording and helping to produce his second album, which
comes out later this year. The first single from the new album, "Wal-Mart
Flowers," will be released for play on country radio stations across the United
States this month.
Cochran said he believes the second album really
shows how he's grown into being a country artist, compared to the first album,
which was recorded and released quickly after his recovery.
"I feel like
[the first album] was a Marine that sings country music," he said, "and I feel
like now, on the sophomore album, I'm getting to show a country artist that's a
Marine."
Cochran's back injury still causes him pain occasionally, but
he said it doesn't stop him from doing everything he did before the incident.
Perhaps of greater everyday impact is the loss of the tip of the ring
finger on his left hand – the hand he uses to form chords on the neck of the
guitar. For dealing with that obstacle, Cochran lightheartedly cited a Marine
Corps saying, "Adapt and overcome." He said it might take him a little longer to
learn a new song now, but he'll sit down with the guitar and try playing it
different ways until it sounds right.
Changing Up the Attack
Around the same time Cochran signed with Aria Records, a Marine
major he had served with called to tell him his options as a retired
servicemember. When Cochran informed him that he'd just signed a record deal,
his friend immediately changed the subject to his ideas for a group focused on
bettering the livelihoods of servicemembers returning from combat, especially
those suffering severe injuries and PTSD.
Together, they founded a
nonprofit group called the Independence Fund. Their goal, Cochran explained, was
to create an organization that covers servicemembers from the time they enlist
or are commissioned to "the time that we put you in the ground."
"I'm
very proud of where we've taken [the fund]," Cochran said, "from just being two
guys' ideas, to now being a full-fledged foundation that's doing a lot of great
work."
Last year, the Independence Fund gave away 19 robotic wheelchairs
at $30,000 apiece to severely wounded veterans. The wheelchairs use Segway
technology to raise users up to a 6-foot, 3 inch height and can climb stairs.
Cochran maintains that these wheelchairs are the equipment he's seen for
a paraplegic or quadriplegic.
"I remember one of the worst things when I
was in a wheelchair was that I constantly had to look up to everybody," he said.
"I went from being this Marine sergeant to the next day that I couldn't look
anybody in the eye when I wanted to talk to them."
The Independence Fund
recently joined the Coalition to Salute America's Heroes, which hosts a variety
of programs to help wounded and disabled veterans live the fullest lives
possible – such as reconstructing homes, providing financial aid and building
support networks. Cochran sits on the board of this larger organization.
Cochran is focused on finding ways to improve support for servicemembers
with PTSD, which he has suffered from himself. "The paranoia [is] the worst," he
said. "You think everybody is against you. That's something we need to figure
out before the greatest causalities of this war don't come at the hands of our
enemy, but the come at the hands of PTSD."
Multiple deployments aren't
making the task any easier for today's servicemembers, he noted. "Nothing has
ever been asked of our fighting men and women like has been asked of this
generation," he said. "It's five, six times they're going overseas."
In
addition to his charity work, Cochran has returned to Kuwait to perform for
servicemembers preparing for the fight in Iraq – men and women he said he
sometimes feels more at home with than his own family. He also is still in touch
with the Marines he served with in Afghanistan who made it back.
"I
don't believe that I was done fighting when I was taken out of the war," Cochran
said, again employing a Marine Corps principle to make his point. "I just had to
'change up the way that I was attacking,'" he said. The way that I attack now is
with going out here and trying to get as many benefits [and] organizations
working for the men and women that are coming back home. Then, they know that
they have one Marine in the United States that's going to do everything every
day that he can do to make sure that ... his or her life is a better quality.
"I think that I can win every award in country music," he continued,
"and still one of the greatest things that I've ever accomplished in my life was
being handed a new eagle, globe and anchor and being told 'Welcome aboard,
United States Marine.'"
(This is the seventh installment of the Wounded
Warrior Diaries series. Kristen Noel works for the Defense Media Activity's
Emerging Media directorate.)
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| April 12
We want to wish all of you a
blessed Easter. Thought this was a wonderful message to send at this time of
year. We have an awesome God and what He did for us at his Cross and
Resurrection was because He loved us so much. He is risen! He has risen
indeed! Alleluia! <><
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Simply
beautiful!!!
THE U IN JESUS
Before U were thought of or time had begun,
God stuck U in the name of His Son.
And each time U pray, you'll see it's true, You
can't spell out JesUs and not include U.
You're a pretty big part of His wonderful name, For
U, He was born; that's why He came.
And His great love for U is the reason He died. It
even takes U to spell crUcified.
Isn't it thrilling and splendidly grand He rose from the dead,
with U in His plan?
The stones split away, the gold trUmpet blew, And this word
resUrrection is spelled with a U.
When JesUs left earth at His upward ascension, He felt there was
one thing He just had to mention.
'Go into the world and tell them it's true That I love them all -
Just like I love U.'
So many great people are spelled with a U, Don't they have a
right to know JesUs too?
It all depends now on what U will do, He'd like them to know,
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